Tapping for Enneagram Type Four

Enneagram Type Four

Even though I have all these issues below, I now understand that it is part of who I am, I deeply and completely love and accept myself, I forgive myself and I forgive anyone else who contributed to these issues. Sometimes it’s hard to be me. Sometimes I have difficulties like

  • experiencing dark moods of emptiness and despair, but that’s ok
  • feelings of self-hatred and shame; believing I don’t deserve to be loved, but that’s ok
  • feeling guilty when I disappoint people, but that’s ok
  • feeling hurt or attacked when someone misundertands me, but that’s ok
  • expecting too much from myself and life, but that’s ok
  • fearing being abandoned, but that’s ok
  • obsessing over resentments, but that’s ok
  • longing for what I don’t have, but that’s ok

Now that I understand myself a little more, and know that I am more than my fluctuating moods and emotions, I can also choose to transcend and release those energies which are not in my best interest to retain. I now choose to release……

  • turning my anger and aggressions against myself.
  • all self-hatred and self-contempt.
  • all feelings of hopelessness and despair.
  • all self-sabotaging thoughts and actions.
  • feeling that I am inadequate and defective.
  • the fear that I am unimportant and undesirable.
  • feeling shameful and misunderstood by others.
  • being distraught, fatigued, and inhibited.
  • feeling that people always let me down.
  • all unrealistic expectations of myself and others.
  • all claims of needing to be treated differently.
  • all self-indulgence in my emotions and behavior.
  • all self-doubt and emotional vulnerability.
  • wanting to protect myself by withdrawing from others.
  • all wasteful fantasies and romantic longings.
  • dwelling on the past to prolong my feelings.

I now choose to appreciate myself for:

  • my ability to find meaning in life and to experience feeling at a deep level
  • my ability to establish warm connections with people
  • admiring what is noble, truthful, and beautiful in life
  • my creativity, intuition, and sense of humor
  • being unique and being seen as unique by others
  • having aesthetic sensibilities
  • being able to easily pick up the feelings of people around me

I now choose to affirm…

  • that I am not defined by my feelings.
  • that only the feelings I act on express who I am.
  • that I open myself up to people and the world.
  • that I use all of my experiences to grow.
  • the goodness of my life, my friends, and myself.
  • that I love myself and treat myself gently.
  • that I am free of the damage of my past.
  • that I am transforming my life into something higher.
  • that I am bringing something good and beautiful into the world.

Adapted from:
Renee Baron & Elizabeth Wagele, The Enneagram Made Easy
Don Richard Riso, Enneagram Transformations

Tapping for Enneagram Type Three

Even though I have all these issues below, I now understand that it is part of who I am, I deeply and completely love and accept myself, I forgive myself and I forgive anyone else who contributed to these issues. Sometimes I have challenges like

  • having to put up with inefficiency and incompetence, but that’s ok
  • the fear of not being — or of not being seen as — successful, but that’s ok
  • comparing myself to people who do things better, but that’s ok
  • struggling to hang on to my success, but that’s ok
  • putting on facades in order to impress people, but that’s ok
  • always being “on.” It’s exhausting, but that’s ok

Now that I understand more, I can also choose to transcend and release those energies which are not in my best interest to retain. I now choose to release……

  • being obsessed by my hostile feelings toward others.
  • believing that sabotaging others will make things better for me.
  • feeling jealous of others and their good fortune.
  • my fear of failing and being humiliated.
  • fearing that I am inadequate and will be rejected.
  • feeling that I must conceal my mistakes and limitations.
  • closing down my feelings in order to function.
  • betraying my own integrity to get the admiration of others.
  • attempting to misrepresent myself and my abilities.
  • the grandiose expectations I have of myself.
  • craving constant attention and affirmation.
  • using arrogance to compensate for my own insecurity.
  • desiring to impress others with my performance.
  • concealing myself behind masks.
  • comparing myself with others.
  • driving myself relentlessly to be the best.

I choose to acknowledge and appreciate myself for my strong points, like

  • being optimistic, friendly, and upbeat
  • providing well for my family
  • being able to recover quickly from setbacks and to charge ahead to the next challenge
  • staying informed, knowing what’s going on
  • being competent and able to get things to work efficiently
  • being able to motivate people

I now choose to affirm…

  • that I have value regardless of my achievements.
  • that I am centered and emotionally available.
  • that I am caring and have a good heart.
  • that I take in the love others give me.
  • that I am responsible to those who look up to me.
  • that I am happy to work for the good of others.
  • that I develop my true talents by accepting who I am.
  • that I delight in the accomplishments and successes of others.
  • that I can reveal my real self without being afraid.

Adapted from:
Renee Baron & Elizabeth Wagele, The Enneagram Made Easy
Don Richard Riso, Enneagram Transformations

Tapping for Enneagram Type Two

Enneagram Type Two

Sometimes it’s hard to be me. Even though I have all these issues below, I now understand that it is part of who I am, I deeply and completely love and accept myself, I forgive myself and I forgive anyone else who contributed to these issues. Sometimes I have issues like

  • not being able to say no, but that’s ok
  • having low self-esteem, but that’s ok
  • feeling drained from overdoing for others, but that’s ok
  • not doing things I really like to do for myself for fear of being selfish, but that’s ok
  • criticizing myself for not feeling as loving as I think I should, but that’s ok
  • being upset that others don’t tune in to me as much as I tume in to them, but that’s ok
  • working so hard to be tactful and considerate that I suppress my real feelings, but that’s ok
  • Now that I understand more, I can also CHOOSE to transcend and release those energies which are not in my best interest to retain.

I now CHOOSE to release…

  • all feelings of rage and resentment toward others.
  • all attempts to justify my aggressive feelings.
  • all attachment to feeling victimized and abused.
  • the fear that I am unwanted and unloved.
  • all attempts to force others to love me.
  • making others feel guilty for not responding sufficiently to my needs.
  • abusing food and medications to make up for my loneliness.
  • feeling that others owe me for the things I have chosen to do for them.
  • believing that no one willingly takes care of me.
  • expecting others to repay my help in the way I want.
  • all physical ailments, aches, and complaints.
  • calling attention to what I have done for others.
  • feeling possessive of loved ones.
  • doing things for others to make myself needed.
  • flattering others to make them feel good about me.
  • not wanting to acknowledge my negative feelings.

I CHOOSE to acknowledge and appreciate myself for my strong points, like

  • being able to relate easily to people and to make friends
  • knowing what people need and being able to make their lives better
  • being generous, caring, and warm
  • being sensitive to and perceptive about others’ feelings
  • being enthusiastic and fun-loving, and having a good sense of humor

I now CHOOSE to affirm…

  • that I own all of my feelings without fear.
  • that I am clear and conscious of my motives.
  • that I am lovable for who I am.
  • that my happiness does not depend on pleasing others.
  • that I can let go of loved ones – allowing them to be themselves, and me to be myself.
  • that I nurture my own growth and development.
  • that I love others without expecting anything in return.
  • the joy and warmth that fills my heart.
  • my gratitude for all that others have given me.

Adapted from:
Renee Baron & Elizabeth Wagele, The Enneagram Made Easy
Don Richard Riso, Enneagram Transformations

Tapping for Enneagram Type One

Enneagram Type One

Even though I have these issues, I now understand that it is part of who I am, I deeply and completely love and accept myself, I forgive myself and I forgive anyone else who contributed to these issues. I recognise that sometimes it is hard to be a One, I have some issues like:

  • being disappointed with myself or others when my expectations are not met, but that’s ok
  • feeling burdened by too much responsibility, but that’s ok
  • thinking that what I do is never good enough, but that’s ok
  • not being appreciated for what I do for people, but that’s ok
  • being upset because others aren’t trying as hard as I am, but that’s ok
  • obsessing about what I did or what I should do, but that’s ok
  • being tense, anxious, and taking things too seriously, but that’s ok

I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway, I forgive myself and anyone else who contributed
to this situation.

I now choose to release…

  • holding myself and others to impossible standards.
  • my fear of losing control and becoming irrational.
  • my fear of being condemned for being wrong.
  • refusing to see my own contradictions.
  • rationalizing my own behavior.
  • obsessing about things I cannot change.
  • all bitterness and disappointment with the world.
  • feeling that other people’s beliefs and values threaten mine.
  • believing that I am in a position to judge others.
  • driving myself and others to be perfect.
  • ignoring my own emotional and physical distress.
  • feeling angry, impatient, and easily annoyed.
  • fearing and disowning my body and my feelings.
  • allowing my desire for order and efficiency to control my life.
  • automatically focusing on what is wrong with things.
  • feeling that it is up to me to fix everything.

I now choose to appreciate myself for:

  • being self-disciplined and able to accomplish a great deal
  • working hard to make the world a better place
  • having high standards and ethics; not compromising myself
  • being reasonable, responsible, and dedicated in everything I do
  • being able to put facts together, coming to good understandings, and figuring out wise solutions
  • being the best I can be and bringing out the best in other people

I now choose to affirm…

  • that I can allow myself to relax and enjoy life.
  • that the best I can do is good enough.
  • that I am grateful that others have many things to teach me.
  • that I can make mistakes without condemning myself.
  • that my feelings are legitimate and that I have a right to feel them.
  • that I treat others with tenderness and respect.
  • that I am gentle and forgiving of myself.
  • that I am compassionate and forgiving of others.
  • that life is good and unfolding in miraculous ways.

Adapted from:
Renee Baron & Elizabeth Wagele, The Enneagram Made Easy
Don Richard Riso, Enneagram Transformations

Feeling like a bad mom, Enneagram Type Six

These are statements I crafted based on a client who was feeling like a bad mom, for taking the time out to work on her own emotional well-being, and in the framework of the Enneagram Type 6. And you can adjust, add or subtract anything you like for your personal use.

Please tap daily, either morning or evening, making sure that in each day, you find some quiet time for yourself to do this.

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1. Please start the tapping with the point under your left shoulder (Reset Button), do 3 rounds of the following statements.:
“I have a basic fear of of being lost, without orientation, without support and guidance.
I have a basic desire to find a trustworthy orientation so that I can be secure and supported
But in my heart of hearts, I know that my essential nature is Awakeness, Inner-Wisdom, Inner-Guidance
This is just my ego experiencing itself in my personality. BUT I am more than my ego, I am more than my personality, I am more than my emotions, I am more than my thoughts. I am life beyond boundaries. I deeply and completely love and accept myself, I forgive myself, and anyone else who contributed to this situation.”

2. Now just do normal tapping, also 3 rounds:

These are the statements that reflect the emotions, and you can change or add as you feel. Just don’t do too many at one time or you might feel overwhelmed:

“I feel guilty all the time. I feel like a bad mother, I’m not really here for the kids.I feel guilty about taking time out for myself.
I feel ashamed, not good enough, I need to be perfect – I’m my own worst critic
I feel abandoned, unsupported, unprotected, overwhelmed
I feel trapped and I want to run away but I can’t
I am tired of feeling this way. I am struggling with a cocktail of emotions that is not really helping me. I am reacting all the time with attachment and aversion, I’m tired of all this. I have no control. The problem is NOT what is happening to me, it’s what I’m THINKING about what’s happening to me, and what I am FEELING about what is happening to me.”

“I now choose to focus on the solution rather than the problem, and to change from the forced wakefulness of my ANXIETY to the relaxed INNER-GUIDANCE within. I now choose to know that working on myself, and ensuring that I am the best that I can be means that I can be there for my kids. I’ve been running on an empty tank for a long time. Now it’s time to put petrol in the car, so that I can be FULLY PRESENT to my life, available for my family, they are my guidance and support, just as I am their guidance and support. I appreciate myself for getting the help I need, and doing the work so that I can be better.”

3. Now do 3 rounds of this affirmations to get in touch with your true nature:

“I choose to trust in my steadfastness, my foresight
I choose to be in touch with
my quiet mind
my inner guidance
my mindfulness, groundedness
I choose to appreciate myself for being courageous and daring to face my issue. I respect myself for the journey that I am going through
I choose to express my inner sovereignty, my strength and fortitude
I choose to experience the STILLNESS, CALM and COURAGE within.”