EFT For Lovelessness

I feel like a victim, like I have no control of my life. It’s hard to feel that way, and I would like to change, but I feel deeply conflicted and helpless.

I deeply and completely love and accept myself, I forgive myself and anyone else who may have contributed to this.

I feel all these emotions: despair, unloved, unsupported, miserable, longing, unappreciated, defeated, longing to be loved, feeling like an outsider. It’s may be natural that I feel this way based on my upbringing and my past baggage, may be I even have a right to feel that way, but it doesn’t really help me. And I don’t want to keep referencing the past because I dont’ want my past to dictate my future.

May be I dont know what is love, love is a concept that I see on tv and in other people’s lives. I am longing for love, but I don’t believe in love, there is no love for me. I am a victim. I am angry with _____ for not loving me, I have a right to feel like that. I need to be loved the way I need to be loved.

But thinking this way only keeps me in suffering. May be I need to choose a different way of being so that I can be happy, and so that my children can have a happier childhood than me. While it is easier to be unhappy and blame other people for my pain, I now choose to be courageous.

I choose to take charge of my emotions and my life, even though I still feel like a victim, I am willing to try. I now choose SERENITY, PEACE OF MIND, WISDOM, AUTHENTICITY, AWAKENING, EQUANIMITY, COURAGE, JOY, GRATITUDE, WONDERMENT, STRENGTH, HARMONY, ABUNDANCE, CONTENTMENT. I now choose THE HIGHEST TRUTH, THE GREATEST LOVE and THE DEEPEST JOY.

May be I have chosen to experience lovelessness, may be now I can choose to experience the opposite of that. I choose to see that the universe supports me, the sun, the sky, the earth, the food that I eat …… the look in my son’s eyes when he laughs and cries…. I am not alone in the world.

I now choose to know that I am a divine child of the universe, I am made of love, I am made of nothing but love. The energy of love gives life and energizes everything. I now choose to be in touch with the DEEPEST TRUTH within me. Underneath the personality, the negative thoughts, the painful emotions is the ESSENCE of who I am. I am a river of consciousness flowing into the the sea of all existence. The experiences I have are the experiences that I choose to have. Because I have choices, I can now choose to have a different experience of life. I now choose SERENITY, PEACE OF MIND, WISDOM, AUTHENTICITY, AWAKENING, EQUANIMITY, COURAGE, JOY, GRATITUDE, WONDERMENT, STRENGTH, HARMONY, ABUNDANCE, CONTENTMENT. I now choose THE HIGHEST TRUTH, THE GREATEST LOVE and THE DEEPEST JOY. All is well in my world.

John Grinder explains the new code difference

Some of you are asking, so what is the difference between New Code and Classic Code in NLP, well, ask no more, here’s the answer directly from the co-creator of NLP and the creator of New Code NLP. Enjoy

John Grinder, ITANLP

In Conversation with Antoinette Biehlmeier – Singing Bowls

In conversation with Antoinette Biehlmeier on her growing collection of Singing Bowls and Inner Tune Therapy.


 

A little bird tells me that you bought 2 Singing Bowls at the recent Heart, Mind and Body Festival. What drew you to them?

I am usually drawn to a bowl either because of its magical sound or the vibration that it creates in my body. One of the bowls had such an amazing deep soothing sound that I couldn’t resist and the other one immediately had an effect on my solar plexus…. they had to come home with me.

 

How many bowls are there now in your collection? Honestly.

I think about 30 plus right now.

Shree Krishna Shah and Santa Ratna Sakya, my teachers from Kathmandu who performed at the Gallery Helios Himalayan Singing Bowl Charity Concert, brought me a really big one on their recent visit- you can stand in there and then play it. Absolutely stunning!

Then there are the ones that I offer for sale… so quite a good collection. My husband luckily lost count of them.

 

How did you first discover the Singing Bowls?

The first time I visited the Holistic Fair at Fort Canning, I passed by Shree’s and Santa’s booth thinking “oh never mind, just another item that needs dusting “. It was only a few years later, when I had my own booth at the fair, which happened to be right opposite theirs (no coincidence, of course), that I became a bit more curious, and at the end of those two days, I came home with my first three bowls. I was really hooked – the effects of the bowls are simply amazing and I truly appreciate their magic. For me the outside world simply ceases to exist when I play them; it is so meditative and creates inner stillness so quickly.

 

Tell us a little bit more about Singing Bowls.

Traditionally, Singing Bowls are made from an alloy of seven metals- copper, tin, iron, lead, mercury, gold and silver. This combination produces the unique tones that enable the bowls to be used for therapy and rituals, as well as for meditation purposes. The bowls can be plain or have religious or spiritual depictions, prayers, or mantras carved on them.

These days, the more commonly found Singing Bowls are usually from Tibet, China, or India. They can be made from copper or a variety of other metals or alloys and are less likely to include precious metals. While Singing Bowls have for centuries been handmade, giving rise to the beautiful hand-beaten burnish, with the older bowls polished smoothen from years of quiet meditative play, these days there are plenty of machine-manufactured, mass-produced pieces. They just don’t have the same timbre.

 

How did you train to become a Singing Bowl / Inner Tune Practitioner?

I had to beg Shree and Santa for more than 2 years before they finally found the time to arrive a few days earlier in Singapore to give a workshop. I was really lucky to be taught by two very skilful teachers on how to use different bowls for healing work and also how to play the bowls for a concert. However to be honest, it takes years of practice before I can play the bowls like they do.

I love the Inner Tune Therapy sessions, where a client lies on the floor and I position 7 bowls around according to the chakras. Sometimes I add the smaller ones to bring in more harmonies. It doesn’t take long before the client drifts off into a very deep relaxed state and by which time I can hear which bowl doesn’t sound harmonious and needs to be played more often to release the corresponding area of tension in the client’s body.

Meanwhile I am confident enough to teach myself and just last year I received a little touch up by Shree to play the bowls more softly. It makes a really big difference how a bowl is stroked.

 

What is a typical Inner Tune Therapy session like?

The client lies fully-clothed on a mat on the floor and the Singing Bowls are placed around him, aligned with the seven major chakra points (energy centres) of the body. Each bowl has a tone which corresponds to a specific chakra. At the beginning, the bowls, or sometimes tuning forks, are struck and sung in a particular rhythmic pattern, and as I tune into the client’s energetic imbalances, intuition gradually takes over.

Sound and vibration have been used to alter brainwave states to promote deep relaxation by inviting the brain to move into the more relaxing frequencies of lower Alpha and Theta.
Besides being deeply relaxing, the sound energy harmonises the chakras, thereby balancing the person’s physical, mental and emotional wellbeing on many levels.

Clients report energy shifts during the session, altered states of awareness, sensations of a deep inner peace and tranquillity, as well as a letting go of old frozen energies and blockages. Some take the opportunity to do a little astral travel. The effects of a single Inner Tune Therapy session can last for several days.

Inner Tune Therapy can break pain reflexes, deepen breath, reduce stress, harmonise the left and right hemispheres of the brain, aid sleep and much much more.

 

As a therapist, how do you feel after the session?

It is always a very rewarding experience for me. As I mentioned, I lose track of time and the outside world and am totally in tune with the client, the resonance and the bowls themselves. I feel more peaceful and grounded after a session, very relaxed and much more aligned.

So if you ask me I would be more than happy to give Inner Tune sessions all day.

 

What are your plans for the future?

I plan to organize a workshop towards the end of the year so that we will have a few more therapists around – then perhaps I am lucky and get a Singing Bowl therapy session more often!

My aim is to visit Shree and Santa in Kathmandu next year, not only to see how the bowls are crafted, but also to learn more from them. It just came to my mind to perhaps organize a Singing Bowl Retreat with them. What an intriguing idea. If anyone reading this is interested, please get in touch with me by email, Antoinette.Biehlmeier@GalleryHelios.com.

EFT Tapping for Feeling Overwhelmed

Overwhelmed

Written for a client who did not feel like he had the right to feel so bad.  Generally someone who feels like this would need some help. This is NOT for EFT beginners. And this is NOT for people with self-destructive tendencies. Please use with caution.

“I find it hard to explain it to people, and to myself. The world overwhelms me. I want to run away. I want to die. I am terrified of living, yet I am terrified of dying. I am in a state of depression, feeling like pond scum lying at the bottom of the pond. I am nothing. I am conquered, defeated, vanquished. Shame. Humiliation. Degradation. Debasement. Defilement. And I don’t even know why I should feel this way. My life isn’t bad.

I wish I could get off this merry go round, but I feel powerless, trapped.

I wish I could lie down and die, or crawl into a hole and die. I want out of this life.

It’s too much. I feel overwhelmed. I can’t face another day.

Even though there are parts of me who feel overwhelmed and wish to bail out, there are other parts of me who are observing this. Those observer parts of me are not overwhelmed, and are willing to help the rest of me understand and enjoy peace and serenity. There might be reasons that I may or may not understand for this feeling of overwhelm. I may or may not be in touch with those parts of me who are feeling overwhelmed, but I deeply and completely love and accept myself. I forgive myself, and anyone else who might have contributed to this situation. There might be causes and conditions for the way that I feel, which may or may not be justified. This is just the way I feel right now. Feelings arise and disappear, I just accept and observe what is there right now.

I embrace all the wouldned childre inside who feel this overwhelm. I see you, I’m sorry I left you there all alone, and holding this “overwhelm”. Please come home, I love you. I’ll take care of you, cherish and protect you. I welcome you back to my family of selves.”

EFT for letting go of the ‘I am a victim’ paradigm

Ten of Swords: bottoming out, victim mentality, martydom

Sometimes we just find it very hard to heal. We go around in circles, and find it hard to break free. We’ve had years of illness, bad luck, and maybe a victim mentality. The same reality repeats, again and again and again.

In this particular case, K had major triggering event in childhood she named ‘total devastation’. These statements were crafted to allow her to see that she somehow perpetuated this reality, stretched the moment and clung to it. She chose it, and therefore have the power to choose to change it. It’s about letting go of the idea of ‘I’ being the victim, ‘I’ being alone and in need while everyone else is having a good time. It was designed to be slightly provocative ,to engage the ego and dig out emotions which may be hidden. Also it’s meant to suggest to the user to let the ‘victim’ go, but in the event that he or she isn’t quite ready yet, it doesn’t push the envelope. Caution: This can only be used with skill and compassion, and isn’t meant for everyone. Please use with care.

If you are new to EFT and tapping please check the section on EFT Basics for the basic tapping technique.

1. Repeat 3 times: “I need to hang on to this ‘total devastation’. So that I can blame someone else. So that I can hold the world responsible for my misery. So I don’t have to take responsibility for myself. The world owes me, so-and-so owes me, they are responsible for my suffering, my pain.

2. just once: I’ll show them, I’ll make them sorry for hurting me, I’m going to be really, really sick, and then they’ll be sorry. They’ll be sorry for me, and give me attention, and love me. Poor me, look at me, negative attention is better than no attention. I need this ‘total devastation’ to protect me, from having to take responsibility, because I know I’m not good enough. I can’t take care of myself. I’m only a child inside, I can’t cope. I need you to take care of me. I need to be nurtured. I need to be loved. I need. I want. Nobody wants me. There’s only me in my world. I’m all alone in my world of me. I need to make people notice me.

3. Repeat 2 times: Even though I still need this piece of juicy melodrama, I’m now ready to think about letting it go. The more I think of ‘me’, ‘poor me’, ‘woe is me’, the more I box ‘myself’ into my lonely world of one. If only I can find another way of being, I just might be ready to let go. If only I can choose to be calm and confident; to include other people in my world, I might start to think about letting my melodrama go. If only it’s possible to let go of this siege mentality and enjoy being humble, selfless, and free. If only I knew what it feels like to be loving without expectations, to be open and giving, I might be willing to let the ‘victim’ go. If I was strong enough to have compassion and wisdom, and think more of others than of me, I will let the ‘victim’ rest, I will let my ‘I’ rest. I might be able to find the courage to let go of the river bank and flow into the river of life. But for now, I’m ok being who I am, and where I am. I have free choice.”