“Even though i have this pain, i deeply and completely love & accept myself. I profoundly and unconditionally love and accept my body, and i thank my body for holding my pain. I thank my pain for keeping me sane and whole. But I now choose to acknowledge my pain & my emotions, I embrace my pain & my emotions even though they are hard for me.
I may have made some poor choices in the past about how to handle my pain and define who I am but those were the best choices i could have made at that time and I choose to honour that. I now choose to make some different choices so that my outcomes can be different.
I now choose to know that I have the sole responsibility and accountability for my life. I now choose to take sovereignty over my life and my body.
I choose freedom, confidence, wisdom, humility, compassion. I choose to be strong, I choose to be powerful, I choose to be loved and love.
Even though I have some pain, but I have the fear that this pain is going to increase……
Now there is no pain, now I have the anxiety, the fear that the pain might return, that the pain will come back with a vengeance i deeply & completely……..
Now there is no pain, and no anxiety, now I’m anxious about not having pain and anxiety, it’s not safe, I’m scared they will come back with a vengeance. I deeply ….. .
I now choose to be calm and confident. I now choose to be happy and pain free….”
Hate, anger, ill-will, vindictiveness in all their guises are energies that eat us up and lower our vibrations. For the most part, these emotions do not serve us. But it’s pointless to tell some one, “don’t be angry, let it go”. The question is how. This is where tapping comes in. As usual score first for the intensity of your emotions, tap and reassess. Tap until emotions are 0 or near 0. Hate is hard to let go of, so expect that you’ll have lots of resistance. You’ll have to use the reframing technique. If you simply can’t get emotions down to 0, say it stops at 0.5, do the 9 gamut technique.
“I hate him. I wish him ill. I want to see him suffer, I want to see him dead… (state what you feel)…. I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway, and I forgive myself.
Even though a part of me wants him out of my system, the rest of me does not want to let go. He deserves my hate, my anger, my ill-will. He deserves many things, but he sure as hell does not deserve forgiveness. (acknowledge your resistance)
But holding on to this energy is hurting only me. The negativity is being stored in my body-mind. It’s not hurting him or affecting him negatively in any way. In a way may be my negativity is helping him reach his goals of tormenting me. May be it’s time to consider a different strategy (suggest an alternative).
May be it is not about what he deserves or doesn’t deserve. May be it’s about me having freedom and release from this. While I am not ready to forgive him, I’m ready to have my freedom, sovereignty and power back. I want to be released from this situation (hell). I want and I deserve freedom from this.
Forgiveness here is not about condoning the past. It’s about choosing not to allow the past to dictate my future. It’s about my own future, and the future of my loved ones (reframing). I now choose to release all negative energies, all negative emotions I have around this situation, so that we can have the life we deserve and that we desire. To live happily and healthily in the world, without recourse to him is our best revenge. I choose to release him from my energy system. I choose freedom from this situation. I choose peace. I choose to be at ease and comfortable in my own skin.”
Anna is a musician with stage fright. Even thinking about being on stage gave her palpitations and made her hands ache. The triggers for this phobia were critical parent and unkind teacher characters who made her feel small. Her grandfather was her biggest fan, her first music teacher and the love in her life when she was growing up. This is the homework that helped her through some major performances.
“Even though I feel like I’m standing here on stage feeling all alone, all exposed with a feeling of doom, I choose to feel strong, I choose to feel safe. I choose to feel calm and confident. I choose to experience my grandfather’s (the love in your life) love, encouragement and support. Even though my hands are starting to hurt, my veins are popping up, I choose to acknowledge my grandfather in my veins, my grandfather in my heart, my grandfather in my hands, in my music…. I choose to play for me and my grandfather. Everybody else here is just incidental.
I am standing on stage feeling powerful, full of music and magic, and the music just smoothly flows out of my heart, fills my hands, fills my instrument, fills the audience, I allow the music to vibrate in every cell of my body, the space between my cells, the space outside of my body, to fill the space in the concert hall. I choose to allow this music to flow beautifully, effortless into the world. I fill the entire universe with this music. Exhilarating…. Awesome…. Powerful…. Centered.”
Siewfan has been nothing but generous, supportive and kind through out my healing process. In times when my journey has been bumpy she has not only helped me deal with it but has given me tools that have empowered me towards my own personal healing. EFT was one of them.
I have been successfully using EFT to work on many of my deep emotional blocks. Some of these blocks which I struggled for years, like my unhealthy relationship with food, is now struggle of the past.
I always look forward to my sessions with her because I know that deep healing will take place. Through these sessions she can be a sister, a mother and or a friend who I can count on always being firm, honest yet loving.
I consider Siewfan to be a blessing and an inspiration.