Even though I have these issues, I now understand that it is part of who I am, I deeply and completely love and accept myself, I forgive myself and I forgive anyone else who contributed to these issues. I recognise that sometimes it is hard to be a One, I have some issues like:
- being disappointed with myself or others when my expectations are not met, but that’s ok
- feeling burdened by too much responsibility, but that’s ok
- thinking that what I do is never good enough, but that’s ok
- not being appreciated for what I do for people, but that’s ok
- being upset because others aren’t trying as hard as I am, but that’s ok
- obsessing about what I did or what I should do, but that’s ok
- being tense, anxious, and taking things too seriously, but that’s ok
I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway, I forgive myself and anyone else who contributed
to this situation.
I now choose to release…
- holding myself and others to impossible standards.
- my fear of losing control and becoming irrational.
- my fear of being condemned for being wrong.
- refusing to see my own contradictions.
- rationalizing my own behavior.
- obsessing about things I cannot change.
- all bitterness and disappointment with the world.
- feeling that other people’s beliefs and values threaten mine.
- believing that I am in a position to judge others.
- driving myself and others to be perfect.
- ignoring my own emotional and physical distress.
- feeling angry, impatient, and easily annoyed.
- fearing and disowning my body and my feelings.
- allowing my desire for order and efficiency to control my life.
- automatically focusing on what is wrong with things.
- feeling that it is up to me to fix everything.
I now choose to appreciate myself for:
- being self-disciplined and able to accomplish a great deal
- working hard to make the world a better place
- having high standards and ethics; not compromising myself
- being reasonable, responsible, and dedicated in everything I do
- being able to put facts together, coming to good understandings, and figuring out wise solutions
- being the best I can be and bringing out the best in other people
I now choose to affirm…
- that I can allow myself to relax and enjoy life.
- that the best I can do is good enough.
- that I am grateful that others have many things to teach me.
- that I can make mistakes without condemning myself.
- that my feelings are legitimate and that I have a right to feel them.
- that I treat others with tenderness and respect.
- that I am gentle and forgiving of myself.
- that I am compassionate and forgiving of others.
- that life is good and unfolding in miraculous ways.
Renee Baron & Elizabeth Wagele, The Enneagram Made Easy
Don Richard Riso, Enneagram Transformations