Tapping for Enneagram Type One

Enneagram Type One

Even though I have these issues, I now understand that it is part of who I am, I deeply and completely love and accept myself, I forgive myself and I forgive anyone else who contributed to these issues. I recognise that sometimes it is hard to be a One, I have some issues like:

  • being disappointed with myself or others when my expectations are not met, but that’s ok
  • feeling burdened by too much responsibility, but that’s ok
  • thinking that what I do is never good enough, but that’s ok
  • not being appreciated for what I do for people, but that’s ok
  • being upset because others aren’t trying as hard as I am, but that’s ok
  • obsessing about what I did or what I should do, but that’s ok
  • being tense, anxious, and taking things too seriously, but that’s ok

I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway, I forgive myself and anyone else who contributed
to this situation.

I now choose to release…

  • holding myself and others to impossible standards.
  • my fear of losing control and becoming irrational.
  • my fear of being condemned for being wrong.
  • refusing to see my own contradictions.
  • rationalizing my own behavior.
  • obsessing about things I cannot change.
  • all bitterness and disappointment with the world.
  • feeling that other people’s beliefs and values threaten mine.
  • believing that I am in a position to judge others.
  • driving myself and others to be perfect.
  • ignoring my own emotional and physical distress.
  • feeling angry, impatient, and easily annoyed.
  • fearing and disowning my body and my feelings.
  • allowing my desire for order and efficiency to control my life.
  • automatically focusing on what is wrong with things.
  • feeling that it is up to me to fix everything.

I now choose to appreciate myself for:

  • being self-disciplined and able to accomplish a great deal
  • working hard to make the world a better place
  • having high standards and ethics; not compromising myself
  • being reasonable, responsible, and dedicated in everything I do
  • being able to put facts together, coming to good understandings, and figuring out wise solutions
  • being the best I can be and bringing out the best in other people

I now choose to affirm…

  • that I can allow myself to relax and enjoy life.
  • that the best I can do is good enough.
  • that I am grateful that others have many things to teach me.
  • that I can make mistakes without condemning myself.
  • that my feelings are legitimate and that I have a right to feel them.
  • that I treat others with tenderness and respect.
  • that I am gentle and forgiving of myself.
  • that I am compassionate and forgiving of others.
  • that life is good and unfolding in miraculous ways.

Adapted from:
Renee Baron & Elizabeth Wagele, The Enneagram Made Easy
Don Richard Riso, Enneagram Transformations

EFT: Eliminating Pain and Anxiety about Pain and Anxiety

“Even though i have this pain, i deeply and completely love & accept myself. I profoundly and unconditionally love and accept my body, and i thank my body for holding my pain. I thank my pain for keeping me sane and whole. But I now choose to acknowledge my pain & my emotions, I embrace my pain & my emotions even though they are hard for me.

I may have made some poor choices in the past about how to handle my  pain and define who I am but those were the best choices i could have made at that time and I choose to honour that. I now choose to make some different choices so that my outcomes can be different.

I now choose to know that I have the sole responsibility and accountability for my life. I now choose to take sovereignty over my life and my body.

I choose freedom, confidence, wisdom, humility, compassion. I choose to be strong, I choose to be powerful, I choose to be loved and love.

Even though I have some pain, but I have the fear that this pain is going to increase……

Now there is no pain, now I have the anxiety, the fear that the pain might return, that the pain will come back with a vengeance i deeply & completely……..

Now there is no pain, and no anxiety, now I’m anxious about not having pain and anxiety, it’s not safe, I’m scared they will come back with a vengeance. I deeply ….. .

I now choose to be calm and confident. I now choose to be happy and pain free….”

Stage Fright

Anna is a musician with stage fright. Even thinking about being on stage gave her palpitations and made her hands ache. The triggers for this phobia were critical parent and unkind teacher characters who made her feel small. Her grandfather was her biggest fan, her first music teacher and the love in her life when she was growing up. This is the homework that helped her through some major performances.

“Even though I feel like I’m standing here on stage feeling all alone, all exposed with a feeling of doom, I choose to feel strong, I choose to feel safe. I choose to feel calm and confident. I choose to experience my grandfather’s (the love in your life) love, encouragement and support. Even though my hands are starting to hurt, my veins are popping up, I choose to acknowledge my grandfather in my veins, my grandfather in my heart, my grandfather in my hands, in my music…. I choose to play for me and my grandfather. Everybody else here is just incidental.

I am standing on stage feeling powerful, full of music and magic, and the music just smoothly flows out of my heart, fills my hands, fills my instrument, fills the audience, I allow the music to vibrate in every cell of my body, the space between my cells, the space outside of my body, to fill the space in the concert hall. I choose to allow this music to flow beautifully, effortless into the world. I fill the entire universe with this music. Exhilarating…. Awesome…. Powerful…. Centered.”