Tapping for Grief (Loss, Fear, Helplessness…)

More on dealing with the loss of a loved one. If you are new to EFT and tapping please check the section on EFT Basics for the basic tapping technique.

I feel so lost and alone, and I am beating myself up for my lack of control. I don’t know how to do “helpless”, I hate when I melt down in front of people at the drop of a hat, I hate that I don’t have any control over my tears, my emotions, it’s not ok for me to be not ok, I have things that need to be done, and people I need to take care of, but I deeply and completely accept myself anyway.

I am at a loss, so many things frazzle me, I feel scared, I can’t cope, I feel overwhelmed, I hate being like this, I don’t know how to do helpless. I feel bad about being sad around my friends. But I forgive myself, and anyone else for contributing to this situation. Even though I was forced to confront my mortality, and the fragility of human life, and I am really shaken, I now choose to find my center again.

Even though I am beating myself up, because it’s not ok to be not ok, that’s ok. I acknowledge that I suffered the biggest loss in my life. My whole world just turned upside down. It’s ok to be not ok. Even though I really want to get over this, and move on, a part of me doesn’t. A part of me thinks that holding on to my grief and suffering, I am holding on to him. A part of me is beating the other part up for wanting to be able to cope. I acknowledge that I may have some conflicted feelings about this. And I deeply and completely love and accept myself, my complex acknowledged and unacknowledged feelings, I forgive myself, and anyone else who may or may not have contributed to this situation.

Even though I still feel anxious, frightened, brokenhearted, bereaved, dread, off-balanced…. I deeply and completely love and accept myself, I forgive myself, and anyone else who contributed to this situation. I now choose to be calm and confident. I now choose to be still and peaceful. I now choose stability, strength,. I now choose to be grounded, centered. I now choose to nurture myself and honour my emotions, and allow myself this time to grief, to reminisce, and then to heal.

Testimonial: EFT and Breastfeeding

Sharon came in with an anxiety about being pregnant when she had chronic health issues. She also had a background mother issue and was visibly distressed about not having support for the natural way she wanted to heal and live, and to raise her new born baby. We used EFT and the Enneagram framework, with some energy work as needed.

“Initially I went to Siew Fan when I was two months pregnant to deal with my anxiety problem. After my delivery, I continue to see her to deal with unresolved parental issue, fear and I am really surprised that she can even help me with breastfeeding.

Each session lasts between ½ to 2 hours and it takes about 8 sessions over a year for my case.

She uses Emotional Freedom technique and she just has the perfect sentences for my tapping.  She understands me without much talking on my part.

As a first time mom, I was really stress out about breastfeeding.  Now I am more relaxed, feel confident, not over-sensitive and able to think positively in response to all the negative comments made by others about breastfeeding and other issues.

The EFT technique and energy healing has immediate effect and is very effective.  I always feel better after each session.

I highly recommend Siew Fan to anyone who wants to get better.”

Sharon, First Time Mom

EFT: Eliminating Pain and Anxiety about Pain and Anxiety

“Even though i have this pain, i deeply and completely love & accept myself. I profoundly and unconditionally love and accept my body, and i thank my body for holding my pain. I thank my pain for keeping me sane and whole. But I now choose to acknowledge my pain & my emotions, I embrace my pain & my emotions even though they are hard for me.

I may have made some poor choices in the past about how to handle my  pain and define who I am but those were the best choices i could have made at that time and I choose to honour that. I now choose to make some different choices so that my outcomes can be different.

I now choose to know that I have the sole responsibility and accountability for my life. I now choose to take sovereignty over my life and my body.

I choose freedom, confidence, wisdom, humility, compassion. I choose to be strong, I choose to be powerful, I choose to be loved and love.

Even though I have some pain, but I have the fear that this pain is going to increase……

Now there is no pain, now I have the anxiety, the fear that the pain might return, that the pain will come back with a vengeance i deeply & completely……..

Now there is no pain, and no anxiety, now I’m anxious about not having pain and anxiety, it’s not safe, I’m scared they will come back with a vengeance. I deeply ….. .

I now choose to be calm and confident. I now choose to be happy and pain free….”

Stage Fright

Anna is a musician with stage fright. Even thinking about being on stage gave her palpitations and made her hands ache. The triggers for this phobia were critical parent and unkind teacher characters who made her feel small. Her grandfather was her biggest fan, her first music teacher and the love in her life when she was growing up. This is the homework that helped her through some major performances.

“Even though I feel like I’m standing here on stage feeling all alone, all exposed with a feeling of doom, I choose to feel strong, I choose to feel safe. I choose to feel calm and confident. I choose to experience my grandfather’s (the love in your life) love, encouragement and support. Even though my hands are starting to hurt, my veins are popping up, I choose to acknowledge my grandfather in my veins, my grandfather in my heart, my grandfather in my hands, in my music…. I choose to play for me and my grandfather. Everybody else here is just incidental.

I am standing on stage feeling powerful, full of music and magic, and the music just smoothly flows out of my heart, fills my hands, fills my instrument, fills the audience, I allow the music to vibrate in every cell of my body, the space between my cells, the space outside of my body, to fill the space in the concert hall. I choose to allow this music to flow beautifully, effortless into the world. I fill the entire universe with this music. Exhilarating…. Awesome…. Powerful…. Centered.”

Testimonial: Rosa, Emotional Blocks

Siewfan has been nothing but generous, supportive and kind through out my healing process. In times when my journey has been bumpy she has not only helped me deal with it but has given me tools that have empowered me towards my own personal healing. EFT was one of them.

I have been successfully using EFT to work on many of my deep emotional blocks. Some of these blocks which I struggled for years, like my unhealthy relationship with food, is now struggle of the past.

I always look forward to my sessions with her because I know that deep healing will take place. Through these sessions she can be a sister, a mother and or a friend who I can count on always being firm, honest yet loving.

I consider Siewfan to be a blessing and an inspiration.

Rosah Lopes