Spiritual Tapping Enneagram Type Seven

This sequence is for Enneagram Type Sevens who want to do deeper work on integrating their personality. Please tap daily for about 7 days, either morning or evening, making sure that in each day, you find some quiet time for yourself to do this. Leave it alone for 7 days, then look at these statements again. You may have some new insights or memories relevant to the development of your Enneagram Type. You can tap on these or ask me if you need help.

If you are new to the Enneagram, EFT and tapping, please first refer to these sections:

EFT Basics

Tapping for Enneagram Types

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1. Please start the tapping with the point under your left shoulder (Reset Button,  “ouch” point), do 3 rounds of the following statements.:
“I am happiest when I am grounded in the knowledge that I can bring my  joy and freedom to others,  when I show  people that they can achieve their dream, while cheering people up,  sending the light of my joy into the world.  I am happy when I am in touch with the discriminating wisdom that knows what to spend time and resources on, and I go seemlessly from one thing to the next, when I am full of joy and humour, and at the same time be in touch with great depths.

I enjoy being fully engaged and grounded, living life as an adventure and being TRULY PRESENT.

But there are times I am not TRULY PRESENT, and I just need to be happy and satisfied, to have a wide variety of experiences, to keep my options open, to enjoy life and experience excitement, to escape anxiety. I want to do those things that will ensure that I have what I need to be happy, to be OK, to be safe…..

I am afraid of not having my needs met, and of losing my freedom, being unhappy

I have a basic desire to be happy, to be free and content …..`

And maybe deep down, I have a basic fear of being trapped in deprivation and despair, of being in pain ….

I want to escape into my computer games, my books, my music, my Tuesday night out…

I am scared of my emotional upheaval,  my emotional upheaval is  my ego experiencing itself in my personality. BUT I am more than my ego, I am more than my personality, I am more than my emotions, I am more than my thoughts. I am life beyond boundaries. I deeply and completely love and accept myself, I forgive myself, and anyone else who contributed to this situation.”

2.Now just do normal tapping, also 3 rounds:

These are the statements that reflect the emotions, and you can change or add as you feel. Just don’t do too many at one time or you might feel overwhelmed:

“I easily pick up new skills, new hobbies, new obsessions, but then I loose interest and don’t follow through

I can’t decide, I like having all the options, I don’t want to miss out.

I am the instant expert, I can shoot from the hip anytime, why can’t people keep up?

I feel trapped if I stay with something or someone for a period of time. I need to escape, break free.

I am living in anticipation of the next thing, the next experience, so much so that I miss the present moment, and miss the current thing that I am experiencing. And then I just want more of a good thing, more is better.

Sometimes I use excitement as a substitute for being happy and satisfied. I hate being bored.

Sometimes I feel like I will never get what I need, I’m starving and grasping all the time. I need more; more quantity, more variety, more experiences.

Sometimes I am feel like I’m trying to outrun my pain and anxiety. I’m trying my best to stay “up”

I hate being told what to do, being controlled/stifled, having no freedom.

I am impatient that this (healing ) process is taking so long. It should have been done by now. I have had enough of pain and anxiety, I am fed up with going there – get over it already!

I am impatient with others who are in pain, I don’t want these depressed people to remind me of my own pain – get over it already!

I make others feel what I fear most, being deprived and trapped in emotional pain.

I want to avoid pain, anxiety and unhappiness at all cost. I am not equipped to deal with depression.

I am tired of feeling this way. I am struggling with a cocktail of emotions that is not really helping me. I am reacting all the time with attachment and aversion. I have no control, no stillness.

“I now choose to that I have a choice to give up the FRUSTRATION of  NOT HAVING,  NOT BEING NURTURED, to give up DEPRIVATION, and PAIN, to be open to GRATITUDE for what I have, to experience my essential quality: that inner JOY and the expansive FREEDOM within. What would I be without that thought that I need more, that I am insatiable, that there isn’t enough for me? What if I was free to feel good about who I am and where I am now?

I now choose to know that working on myself, and ensuring that I am the best that I can be means that I can be FULLY here. Being FULLY PRESENT means that I can be open to the unfolding of the real ADVENTURE of life. I choose to be GRATEFUL for the gift of the PRESENT MOMENT, rather than regretting the past or fearing the future. Maybe what I have now is enough. Maybe there’s nowhere else I need to be, and I’m not missing out on something else that’s more worthwhile. I AM BEING TAKEN CARE OF. I appreciate myself for getting the help I need, and doing the work so that I can be at the highest expression of who I am.”

3. Now do 3 rounds of this affirmations to get in touch with your true nature:

“I now choose to release the conviction that I require specific objects and experiences in order to feel fulfilled.
I choose to be involved with things in depth, and shift my focus of attention from myself to the world. I choose to see that the world exists for purposes other than my own gratification, but that I am being taken care of. I now choose to be in touch with

my sense of abundance
my generosity
joy, inner delight
childlike innocence
spontaneity, free-spiritedness
sense of boundlessness, expansive freedom
contentment, sobriety
gratitude

I choose to know that I am being nourished by the VAST BOUNDLESSNESS of my own nature, and taught by this adventure we call life.,
As I witness the unfolding of creation itself, great JOY and AWE arise. I find PEACE in the deep HUSH and restful STILLNESS within. I rejoice in the SPONTANEITY of BEING, and being in touch with this PRESENT MOMENT, the immediacy of constant creation. I choose to be open to my natural state of SOBRIETY, a quality like the CLARITY and FRESHNESS of newly fallen snow.

I choose to appreciate myself for being in touch with the WONDERMENT and mystery of life. I respect myself for the journey that I am going through, and know that I am never separate from the JOY and EXPANSIVENESS of life
I choose to know that I am HAPPY and CONTENT, FULFILLED and FREE.
I choose to CELEBRATE this JOYOUS unfolding of reality, and be FULLY PRESENT to the GRATITUDE, JOY, and SOBRIETY within.”

Adapted from the work of Tim McClean, Don Riso and Russ Hudson of the Enneagram Institute

Tapping for Grief (Loss, Fear, Helplessness…)

More on dealing with the loss of a loved one. If you are new to EFT and tapping please check the section on EFT Basics for the basic tapping technique.

I feel so lost and alone, and I am beating myself up for my lack of control. I don’t know how to do “helpless”, I hate when I melt down in front of people at the drop of a hat, I hate that I don’t have any control over my tears, my emotions, it’s not ok for me to be not ok, I have things that need to be done, and people I need to take care of, but I deeply and completely accept myself anyway.

I am at a loss, so many things frazzle me, I feel scared, I can’t cope, I feel overwhelmed, I hate being like this, I don’t know how to do helpless. I feel bad about being sad around my friends. But I forgive myself, and anyone else for contributing to this situation. Even though I was forced to confront my mortality, and the fragility of human life, and I am really shaken, I now choose to find my center again.

Even though I am beating myself up, because it’s not ok to be not ok, that’s ok. I acknowledge that I suffered the biggest loss in my life. My whole world just turned upside down. It’s ok to be not ok. Even though I really want to get over this, and move on, a part of me doesn’t. A part of me thinks that holding on to my grief and suffering, I am holding on to him. A part of me is beating the other part up for wanting to be able to cope. I acknowledge that I may have some conflicted feelings about this. And I deeply and completely love and accept myself, my complex acknowledged and unacknowledged feelings, I forgive myself, and anyone else who may or may not have contributed to this situation.

Even though I still feel anxious, frightened, brokenhearted, bereaved, dread, off-balanced…. I deeply and completely love and accept myself, I forgive myself, and anyone else who contributed to this situation. I now choose to be calm and confident. I now choose to be still and peaceful. I now choose stability, strength,. I now choose to be grounded, centered. I now choose to nurture myself and honour my emotions, and allow myself this time to grief, to reminisce, and then to heal.

Testimonial: EFT and Breastfeeding

Sharon came in with an anxiety about being pregnant when she had chronic health issues. She also had a background mother issue and was visibly distressed about not having support for the natural way she wanted to heal and live, and to raise her new born baby. We used EFT and the Enneagram framework, with some energy work as needed.

“Initially I went to Siew Fan when I was two months pregnant to deal with my anxiety problem. After my delivery, I continue to see her to deal with unresolved parental issue, fear and I am really surprised that she can even help me with breastfeeding.

Each session lasts between ½ to 2 hours and it takes about 8 sessions over a year for my case.

She uses Emotional Freedom technique and she just has the perfect sentences for my tapping.  She understands me without much talking on my part.

As a first time mom, I was really stress out about breastfeeding.  Now I am more relaxed, feel confident, not over-sensitive and able to think positively in response to all the negative comments made by others about breastfeeding and other issues.

The EFT technique and energy healing has immediate effect and is very effective.  I always feel better after each session.

I highly recommend Siew Fan to anyone who wants to get better.”

Sharon, First Time Mom

Tapping for Enneagram Type Six

Enneagram Type Six

Even though I have all these issues below, I now understand that it is part of who I am, I deeply and completely love and accept myself, I forgive myself and I forgive anyone else who contributed to these issues. Sometimes it’s hard to be me, I have issues like

  • the constant push and pull involved in trying to make up my mind, but that’s ok
  • procrastinating because of fear of failure; having little confidence in myself, but that’s ok
  • fearing being abandoned or taken advantage of, but that’s ok
  • exhausting myself by worrying and scanning for danger, but that’s ok
  • wishing I had a rule book at work so I could do everything right, but that’s ok
  • being too critical of myself when I haven’t lived up to my expectations, but that’s ok
  • Now that I understand more, that I am more than the sum of my emotions, thoughts and actions, I can also choose to transcend and release those energies which are not in my best interest to retain.

I now choose to release…

  • my fear of being abandoned and alone.
  • my self-defeating, self-punishing tendencies.
  • all feelings of dread about the future.
  • feeling persecuted, trapped, and desperate.
  • overreacting and exaggerating my problems.
  • taking out my fears and anxieties on others.
  • being suspicious of others and thinking the worst of them.
  • feeling inferior and incapable of functioning on my own.
  • feeling cowardly and unsure of myself.
  • acting “tough” to disguise my insecurities.
  • my fear and dislike of those who are different from me.
  • blaming others for my own problems and mistakes.
  • being evasive and defensive with those who need me.
  • my tendency to be negative and complaining.
  • my fear of taking responsibility for my mistakes.
  • looking to others to make me feel secure.

I choose to acknowledge and appreciate myself for my strong points, like

  • being committed and faithful to family and friends
  • being responsible and hardworking
  • being compassionate toward others
  • having intellect and wit
  • being a nonconformist
  • confronting danger bravely
  • being direct and assertive

I now choose to affirm…

  • that I am independent and capable.
  • that I can keep my own identity in groups and in relationships.
  • that I have faith in myself, my talents, and my future.
  • that I meet difficulties with calmness and confidence.
  • that I am secure and able to make the best of whatever comes my way.
  • the kinship I have with every human being.
  • that I am understanding and generous to all who need me.
  • that I act courageously in all circumstances.
  • that I find true authority within me.

Adapted from:
Renee Baron & Elizabeth Wagele, The Enneagram Made Easy
Don Richard Riso, Enneagram Transformations

EFT: Eliminating Pain and Anxiety about Pain and Anxiety

“Even though i have this pain, i deeply and completely love & accept myself. I profoundly and unconditionally love and accept my body, and i thank my body for holding my pain. I thank my pain for keeping me sane and whole. But I now choose to acknowledge my pain & my emotions, I embrace my pain & my emotions even though they are hard for me.

I may have made some poor choices in the past about how to handle my  pain and define who I am but those were the best choices i could have made at that time and I choose to honour that. I now choose to make some different choices so that my outcomes can be different.

I now choose to know that I have the sole responsibility and accountability for my life. I now choose to take sovereignty over my life and my body.

I choose freedom, confidence, wisdom, humility, compassion. I choose to be strong, I choose to be powerful, I choose to be loved and love.

Even though I have some pain, but I have the fear that this pain is going to increase……

Now there is no pain, now I have the anxiety, the fear that the pain might return, that the pain will come back with a vengeance i deeply & completely……..

Now there is no pain, and no anxiety, now I’m anxious about not having pain and anxiety, it’s not safe, I’m scared they will come back with a vengeance. I deeply ….. .

I now choose to be calm and confident. I now choose to be happy and pain free….”