I am pleased to share with you my experience of learning the enneagram… Eager to understand more about others for the purpose of connecting better to achieve better results has pushed me to pick up my first book about enneagram.
After entering into the world of the enneagram, I realized that it is more beneficial to have better self understanding, self awareness and to work on myself. It is possible to overcome my limitations to be a better person. After we shape up, we will be in a better position to inspire and influence others to achieve better results together.
I realized that after resolving my hidden childhood issues, I am now able to appreciate and better face my fears. I feel that I have permission to be important and to belong. I am able to see things from different perspectives given the same situation. This improved version of me will be more ready to see more opportunities, overcome limitations and have a better outlook in life.
“Personality is the sense of being separated from your essence; a sense of self created by us.” I had my jaw dropped at just the opening words of the Enneagram worskhop. Unlike most personality tests I have taken, Enneagram impressed me with its deep purpose and meaningful ways of getting to know myself. I have always thought that knowledge of personality types ends at knowing what sort of person I am, and who others are. I used to think that negative characters of certain types are ends in itself. I thought it was normal to stay behaving in certain negative ways because of our personalities. The three levels of each personality taught by Siewfan is good news for everyone. At every type, there are healthy, average and unhealthy levels. The best part is we are taught practical techniques on how to move up to the healthiest level of each personality type in us.
This Enneagram workshop enables me to relate and understand other human beings better, accepting everyone and seeing everything as one, especially after getting to know that each person possesses all types. We seek to understand one another rather than judging or criticizing.
I get to feel that personalities are boxes I choose to be in, instead of who I am. The practical exercises have enabled me to feel inner silence, away from the mind. The Enneagram workshop has given me the opportunity to understand better my spirit. It was truly a spiritual experience for me.
I intend to continue practicing tapping – a technique of tapping for your highest level and lessening the lower levels – attending to and integrating all inner child in me so that I become whole again.
I would certainly love to learn more about how to move up the highest level where we can feel our original essence and live our purpose by recognizing our desires and eliminating all sorts of fears. Knowing that Enneagram can help transform my self, there is no other thing more urgent for me than working on myself even if it takes a lifetime.
Thank you Siewfan, for the unique and most useful workshop I have ever attended!
Have you ever noticed the number of times someone says “I” or “me” in a conversation? What is it we mean when we say “I”? Who exactly do we refer to? Who do we define our “I”? What identity do we take on? Are we identified with our job or profession – I am a lawyer. Or our image – what I wear, what I do, where I go, whom I’m with, where I hang out, who I take photos with. Our emotions? Our bodies? Our ego? When someone says this is me or this is not me. Think about what part of ourselves we are talking about.
Chances are that a lot of times we operate in the world by reacting. Reacting towards: with desire, with attachment, with liking something and wanting more of it. Reacting away from: with aversion, with fear, with anger or dislike, and with not wanting it. In the study of the Enneagram, we also come to understand how operate when reacting against and reacting towards. We learn to recognise the patterns that we repeat from childhood.
In Enneagram-speak, the twin mechanism of the Basic Fear and Basic Desire in each of us create our personality. The personality is a program we run in order to cope with life when we are separate from our true selves. And in running the program we loose sovereignty over our lives – people and the environment press our buttons and we jump, we keep experiencing the same repeated situations, relationships and emotions. We are trapped on the hamster wheel, the faster we run, the more firmly we stay in place. At some point, particularly at mid-life, we all get this insight, that life is not all we think it is. We are not who we think we are. This is a good place to be, although it can be un-nerving and downright unpleasant.
Isn’t this just another personality typing system that puts people in a box?
The Enneagram provides a map of how the personality works, reveals our habitual self and shows the box we are already in. In addition, it shows us the way back to our true selves, our true essence. This last bit is not common knowledge even in the Enneagram world, but it is the part that makes the most sense.
So how does it work?
Step 1: Learn about the Enneagram Types and where on the 9 levels of your type you are at now. Learn about the Enneagram Types of the people in your life and how your relationships with them are like.
Step 2: Learn about the Essential nature of each Type
Step 3: Learn how to get in touch with that essential nature. There’s nothing to achieve, just stuff to release.
How do I start?
Click the Enneagram icon below to take the free Enneagram test