EFT tapping for Releasing Identity

Venetian Mask by Gnuckx

This statement was created to help us let go of our attachment to our identity. We all hang our hats somewhere, some of us on our roles or personality, some of us on our jobs or our culture or our suffering. Most likely all of the above and more influence our identity. As always, please add your own words to the statements so that they will be more relevant. I hope this helps those who are trying to find their way back to the essence of who they are.

If you are new to EFT and tapping, please first refer to Emotional Freedom Technique for the basic technique.

 

Even though I have all these beliefs, conscious or unconscious, about who I am, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. I forgive myself, and anyone else (maybe) who contributed to this situation.

I have all these thoughts, these demons, I have all this suffering, shame, rage, fear, despair… (change or add those that affect you) , I wake up in the morning to this fog of darkness, dread and doom. I experience my shadow, and I am overwhelmed by my shadow. And I have chosen to believe that these are my only truths.

I not only have thoughts, but I have identified with my thoughts.
I not only have emotions, but I have identified with my emotions.
I not only have personality but I have identified with my personality.
I not only play roles but I have identified with my roles.
I not only experience my shadow but I have been overwhelmed and identified with my shadow.

I think thoughts, but I am not limited by my thoughts. I feel emotions, but I am not limited by my emotions, I exhibit a personality, but I am not limited by my personality, I play different roles, but I am not limited to my roles. I am not limited by my identity. My identity is only a convenient label I wear. I am still all that I am without my label, I can feel emotions without attaching to them, I can experience a personality without attaching to it, I can play roles, without attaching to them. I can be overwhelmed by my shadow without becoming attached to it.

I now choose to feel emotions without attaching to them, without identifying with them
I now choose to experience personality without attaching to it, without identifying with it
I now choose to play roles without attaching to them, without identifying with them, without limiting myself to them
I now choose to integrate shadow without identifying with it, without limiting myself to it.

Every time I say “I”,  I mean a phenomenon that is unfolding in the now. I choose to be free of my limiting beliefs, my habit energies and my programming. All the things which are superflous and external to the truth of who I really am. I may or may not soon discover the essence of who I am, but I choose my unfolding now to include

wisdom, goodness, compassion, peace, strength, joy
serenity, humility, authenticity, equanimity
non-attachment, courage, sobriety, stillness
innocence, self-trust, skillful action

I deeply and completely love and accept myself. I forgive myself, and anyone else (maybe) who contributed to this situation. I know that I am made of love, made of nothing but love. And it is impossible to be disconnected from my Source. Source is pulsating in every cell of my being. I am spirit having a human experience. I am in the right place, at the right time, having the right experiences.

 

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Clarity and Caffeine

Clouds of emotions identified as I, my, me and mine
Patterns of disruption created at an earlier time

Emotions, embrace them softly
Perspectives, hold them lightly
Enemies, treat them gently
Identity, wear it loosely

How does knowing your Enneagram Type help?

Enneagram Types
Enneagram Types

 

 

Have you ever noticed the number of times someone says “I” or “me” in a conversation? What is it we mean when we say “I”? Who exactly do we refer to? Who do we define our “I”? What identity do we take on? Are we identified with our job or profession – I am a lawyer. Or our image – what I wear, what I do, where I go, whom I’m with, where I hang out, who I take photos with. Our emotions? Our bodies? Our ego? When someone says this is me or this is not me. Think about what part of ourselves we are talking about.

Chances are that a lot of times we operate in the world by reacting. Reacting towards: with desire, with attachment, with liking something and wanting more of it. Reacting away from: with aversion, with fear, with anger or dislike, and with not wanting it. In the study of the Enneagram, we also come to understand how operate when reacting against and reacting towards. We learn to recognise the patterns that we repeat from childhood.

In Enneagram-speak, the twin mechanism of the Basic Fear and Basic Desire in each of us create our personality. The personality is a program we run in order to cope with life when we are separate from our true selves. And in running the program we loose sovereignty over our lives – people and the environment press our buttons and we jump, we keep experiencing the same repeated situations, relationships and emotions. We are trapped on the hamster wheel, the faster we run, the more firmly we stay in place. At some point, particularly at mid-life, we all get this insight, that life is not all we think it is. We are not who we think we are. This is a good place to be, although it can be un-nerving and downright unpleasant.

 

Isn’t this just another personality typing system that puts people in a box?

The Enneagram provides a map of how the personality works, reveals our habitual self and shows the box we are already in. In addition, it shows us the way back to our true selves, our true essence. This last bit is not common knowledge even in the Enneagram world, but it is the part that makes the most sense.

 

So how does it work?

Step 1: Learn about the Enneagram Types and where on the 9 levels of your type you are at now. Learn about the Enneagram Types of the people in your life and how your relationships with them are like.

Step 2: Learn about the Essential nature of each Type

Step 3: Learn how to get in touch with that essential nature. There’s nothing to achieve, just stuff to release.

 

How do I start?

Click the Enneagram icon below to take the free Enneagram test

 

So I know my Type, now what?

Review the detailed descriptions at The Enneagram Institute.

 

This is all very interesting but so complex, now what?

Join our mailing list to be kept abreast of our Enneagram classes or contact Siewfan Wong for an Enneagram coaching session.

Heads up: We will have 2 introduction to the Enneagram classes, followed by the Enneagram and Transformation class in May 2013 taught by Tim McLean, from the Enneagram Institute.