Even though sometimes it’s hard to be an Eight, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway, I forgive myself, and any body else for contributing to this situation. Being an eight is hard becasue, sometimes I am
- overwhelming people with my bluntness; scaring them away when I don’t intend to, but that’s ok
- restless and impatient with others’ incompetence, but that’s ok
- sticking my neck out for people and receiving no appreciation for it, but that’s ok
- never forgetting injuries or injustices, but that’s ok
- putting too much pressure on myself, but that’s ok
- getting high blood pressure when people don’t obey the rules or when things don’t go right, but that’s ok
I choose to appreciate myself for being an eight, I appreciate myself for:
- being independent and self-reliant
- being able to take charge and meet challenges head on
- being courageous, straightforward, and honest
- getting all the enjoyment I can out of life
- supporting, empowering, and protecting those close to me
- upholding just causes
I now choose to release…
- all anger, rage, and violence from my life.
- dehumanizing myself by violating others in any way.
- being verbally or physically abusive.
- believing that taking vengeance will free me from my own pain.
- hardening my heart against suffering.
- my fear of ever being vulnerable or weak.
- believing that I do not need others.
- believing that I must bully people to get my way.
- my fear that others will control me.
- feeling that I must only look after myself.
- my fear of losing to anyone.
- feeling that I must never be afraid.
- attempting to control everything in my life.
- allowing my pride and ego to ruin my health and relationships.
- thinking that anyone who does not agree with me is against me.
- being hard-boiled and denying my need for affection.
I now choose to affirm…
- that I believe in people and care about their welfare.
- that I am big-hearted and let others share the glory.
- that I am honorable and therefore worthy of respect.
- that I am most fulfilled by championing others.
- that I have tender feelings and good impulses.
- that I can be gentle without being afraid.
- that I master myself and my own passions.
- that there is an authority greater than me.
- that I love others and ask for their love in return.
Renee Baron & Elizabeth Wagele, The Enneagram Made Easy
Don Richard Riso, Enneagram Transformations