Sometimes it’s hard to be me. Even though I have all these issues below, I now understand that it is part of who I am, I deeply and completely love and accept myself, I forgive myself and I forgive anyone else who contributed to these issues. Sometimes I have issues like
- not being able to say no, but that’s ok
- having low self-esteem, but that’s ok
- feeling drained from overdoing for others, but that’s ok
- not doing things I really like to do for myself for fear of being selfish, but that’s ok
- criticizing myself for not feeling as loving as I think I should, but that’s ok
- being upset that others don’t tune in to me as much as I tume in to them, but that’s ok
- working so hard to be tactful and considerate that I suppress my real feelings, but that’s ok
- Now that I understand more, I can also CHOOSE to transcend and release those energies which are not in my best interest to retain.
I now CHOOSE to release…
- all feelings of rage and resentment toward others.
- all attempts to justify my aggressive feelings.
- all attachment to feeling victimized and abused.
- the fear that I am unwanted and unloved.
- all attempts to force others to love me.
- making others feel guilty for not responding sufficiently to my needs.
- abusing food and medications to make up for my loneliness.
- feeling that others owe me for the things I have chosen to do for them.
- believing that no one willingly takes care of me.
- expecting others to repay my help in the way I want.
- all physical ailments, aches, and complaints.
- calling attention to what I have done for others.
- feeling possessive of loved ones.
- doing things for others to make myself needed.
- flattering others to make them feel good about me.
- not wanting to acknowledge my negative feelings.
I CHOOSE to acknowledge and appreciate myself for my strong points, like
- being able to relate easily to people and to make friends
- knowing what people need and being able to make their lives better
- being generous, caring, and warm
- being sensitive to and perceptive about others’ feelings
- being enthusiastic and fun-loving, and having a good sense of humor
I now CHOOSE to affirm…
- that I own all of my feelings without fear.
- that I am clear and conscious of my motives.
- that I am lovable for who I am.
- that my happiness does not depend on pleasing others.
- that I can let go of loved ones – allowing them to be themselves, and me to be myself.
- that I nurture my own growth and development.
- that I love others without expecting anything in return.
- the joy and warmth that fills my heart.
- my gratitude for all that others have given me.
Renee Baron & Elizabeth Wagele, The Enneagram Made Easy
Don Richard Riso, Enneagram Transformations